• renegadespork@lemmy.jelliefrontier.net
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      I’ve heard that this is instinctual. We have evolved to find crying and upset children intolerable because it motivates us to do something about it.

      Children are also exceptional and figuring out how to push our buttons because they instinctively find and repeat behaviors that get a reaction out of their caregivers when they desire attention.

      Unfortunately the most motivating emotions are often negative ones.

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    I have so many. Here are some top ones:

    • Grinding metal utensils on plates/teeth
    • Stepping on something wet
    • Motorcycles / purposefully loud exhaust mods
    • Most mouth sounds in general
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      When hurricane Beryl hit us, Target was on generators with very minimal lighting and no music. It was such a great shopping experience, that I flagged down the manager and asked them to do this full time.

      Of course they didn’t. But man, I miss that.

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        There’s a supermarket nearby that has a ‘quiet hour’ every day, mostly aimed at neurodivergent customers. I try to go at that time, it’s a much less stressful experience.

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      earplugs have been a game changer for me. i haven’t been shopping without them for the last six months.

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      Some noise I do like though, if a store is dead quiet it feels like you can’t talk to anyone or even ask a vendor a question without being the attention of everyone in the surrounding area. There is a bit of privacy to a bit of noise. Though I agree to much is terrible.

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      That was last night at the family gathering. Why was the tv volume on at all? Everyone was shouting to be heard over everyone else. The amount of questions directed at me and me not able to string two thoughts together to reply intelligently because someone turned it on some bakeoff marathon and then hid the effing remote.

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      Thankfully, the family understands that I’m not anti-social. I just can’t sit in a room with the TV on and two grandchildren listening to iPads all at the same time.

      I have plenty of tasks in my office or in the garage.

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    My wife hates eating noises. I never used to notice them, but she complains a lot.

    She also eats pretzels and chews ice all the time. Now it fucking annoys me.

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    • Loud conversations. If you need to speak loudly at the person right next to you, you need to get your hearing checked.
    • Excessive perfume
    • Bright headlights
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    Hearing the sound of people eating. Especially if it’s louder than what i would consider normal.

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      At one office i worked in the guy on the other side of the cubicle wall from me was a loud eater and constant snacker. Drove me insane. Sound of people eating just completely puts me on edge.

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        I have this happening right now. He likes crunchy food but chews it weirdly slow so the sounds happen for longer.

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    Barking. It drives me absolutely mad.

    Unfortunately in the US people are OBSESSED with dogs. Everyone has one and so many people just leave them outside to bark and bark and bark and bark and bark and… :/

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      Yeah I used to go for a walk at my old neighborhood and one dog would start barking then the next and the next and soon I would have the whole neighborhood barking just by walking around the block.

      Also my old neighborhood my neighbor will leave for work at 6:00 in the morning and his dog would woefully and loudly bark for a solid hour after he left.

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      My folks bought a new house and got all this expensive LED lighting installed everywhere and they ALL run at such a low frequency they look like strobe lights to me. I hate it so much.

      Nice place otherwise, though.

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        I don’t notice normal LEDs generally.

        But anything moving in front of Christmas lights gives me a giant headache. It’s incredibly obvious.

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    Dry, dirty hands after working in the garden. I mean dry.

    Sharp Scrape of utensil on plate.

    A thick seam on socks at the toes.

    Too-tight clothing.

    Repetitive noise.

    Sometimes people chewing. Or talking around chewing.

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    This miiiiight not be a sensory thing, but here goes.

    To me, everything has, like, a correct feeling it has to give before leaving it to rest. If not, it’s a little too rough, or smooth, it just feels off. And I can keep feeling it after stopping touching it. And anytime I look at the object. I can feel it when I watch a movie or show and someone puts something down in some indescribably wrong way.

    To be clear, this isn’t a placement thing. Organization and whatnot don’t matter, it’s just like “Oh my foot just dragged forward on the carpet, that was weird and rough forward, now I have to do it backward to make it feel right,” or “I just out that down and from the sound, I can tell it went down wrong. I gotta go adjust it.” That loops until I get it just right, usually a process of 2-45 minutes.

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      I get this a lot too… Sometimes it extends to placement of an object but more like; I adjusted this candle and it went too far counter clockwise so now I need to adjust it equally counter clockwise before moving to the right position or it would “feel” off.

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      Yeah I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I try not correcting/redoing the thing that was bothering me, and it makes me feel vaguely uncomfortable/unsettled. It’s like I fixate on it.

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    Pencil with the tip broken off on paper.

    High pitched noises (CRT displays, dyson vacuums)

    Sweating while wearing full clothing

    Microfiber hand towels that don’t properly absorb water