cross-posted from: https://ani.social/post/4817801
If you read my history you’ll know I’m a nurse applying for a position that’s gonna mean less money but also less physical job, stable sleeping patterns and your regular 5 day workweek.
today I said goodbye to a group of coworkers I like working with. I was discreet about the new job, but I’m gonna miss working with them.
It makes me don’t want to quit.
If you were ever here, how did you solve this?
My ex-boss used to say (and I think it’s true) it’s much better to work with a good team at a bad job, than a bad team at a good job.
If you need the regular hours for your mental and physical health, though, that is more important. And an unknown group of people isn’t necessarily a bad group of people, maybe they will also be great.
You have to put yourself first.
Decide what’s your top priority and everything else falls into place.
A stable job with regular hours means you’ll be able to seek out other folks to socialize with.
That’s what I’m currently doing, for the most part. Don’t like my boss, don’t like our internal customers, but I do like the coworkers I work with every week. It’s definitely a dumb-but-loyal decision on my part.
No, but I have stayed at my current job partly out of spite for a middle manager whom I have somehow overcome.
If you were ever here, how did you solve this?
Simple. Just stay friends. I left a job 15 years ago because the CEO was an asshole. However, our team was great and I still visit some of my old colleagues regularly.
I am sort of in this position as well. The day-to-day can get way too busy at times, so I get burned out fairly often, but I’m still sticking around. I’m loyal to the team like you said, but there’s a variety of other reasons as well. I appreciate the mission, it’s a good fit for my skills, I have a decent amount of flexibility in my schedule, and on and on. Also… I really hate looking for jobs. So I’ll probably put that off for as long as I can.
Any job will have its mix of pros and cons. You have to make a call based on what matters to you.
Wife was a nurse at a hospital for 10 years. Got burn out and was offered a lower paying position at a GI clinic. She loves her coworkers there and the docs are great. She left a bunch of peers she liked working with but over time has decompressed and the majority of them left too. You’re making the right choice, trust us. She keeps in contact with the ones she enjoyed being around so they all still talk. Quitting doesn’t mean you have to leave the friendship behind.
Did it for almost a decade. Best team I’ve worked with, but eventually enough dominos began to fall, and me staying there only really helped enforce the bad behavior of higher ups. Many followed after me.
Nope
Definitely not. Though I did work at a place with good coworkers and we all complained every day that we’d leave. I quit, and when I stopped in four years later they were all still there.
Having good coworkers is absolutely a reason to stay in a job. You spend a lot of time at work so you want to make sure you’re enjoying that time - friends help with that.
There is no clear rule on when to leave a job, so you need to make that decision yourself (though you should talk it over with people you trust).
That said, if you’ve ever been at a company and seen one senior IC quit and then watched a conga line of other seniors following them out it’s likely that they were putting up with bullshit because they liked their coworkers and, as soon as those folks were no longer their coworkers, they didn’t see any further reason to stay. At a company with low turn over you’ll occasionally just see massive resignation waves - like 80% of a department - because the bullshit finally became too much and caused a domino effect.
