It’s harder to think about “enough” in places like India (or even the US) where there is so much inequality.

But I would define “enough” as comfortable. Not worried about bills, buying whatever groceries you want, a good living situation and enough cushion that an emergency won’t make you homeless.

The addiction to more, more, more is a disorder like hoarding is.

Well I have kids your age, so a literal generation gap? Yes.

I think Lemmy has age diversity, more so than other platforms.

There are two answers for me. Sometimes I stop and think my way out of it and am ok after a couple hours, I can let it go.

Sometimes I just get angrier and angrier as I think about it, and in that situation I must talk to the other party. That usually takes a day or two because it takes me that long to realize I’m not gonna calm down, am still mad. But every time this has happened, the other party has apologized because they, in the same intervening time, have realized they were being asshole-ish.

Nobody I know takes that long to tell me, if I am being asshole-ish. It can take me an hour or so to calm down and apologize.

All of this assumes good intentions on all sides. My ex, you couldn’t back down or apologize with him, he saw it as weakness and would mock, was terrible at fighting.

One thing, hmm. I need a rug for our front room, and a hundred would get a much nicer one than those I was looking at, so a rug.

Bourbon sour, unless it’s a good bar, then a margarita. If it’s really not a good bar, like at a concert then vodka cranberry or whiskey pineapple.

But at like a restaurant bar, mid tier, a bourbon sour.

Constantokra? Could you have a word with my okra plants? They have not flowered yet, are flourishing in the heat but no okra. I planted fewer because in years past we couldn’t keep up with them, but this year they hesitate? We want constant okra.

I have noticed, with YouTube Music: if you play a new song, it plays similar sounding songs, old and new - that’s great.

If you play an old song, though, it just plays other music from the same time period regardless of what they sound like. Stupid.

The toast is wrong for Florida though, we’d have Cuban bread.

The bacon though - we went to La Teresita here for breakfast, my kids ordered bacon and they brought them a whole bowl full of bacon to share.

Oh, Mr. Flickerman. Old people have sex. More than young people since now not as many distractions, no young kids or chance of pregnancy. I think a better way to express this is, it’s not important as long as it’s not a problem. I agree the friendship part is more important, but having a similar sex drive makes everything work better, and sex is not a silly thing to need in a romantic relationship, it’s not a frivolous extra.

Because you are in the middle of nowhere? There are so many people in the world, I cannot imagine nobody is into you. Above I see you say something about “people like you” but you seem to be able to communicate well and keep your cool, that puts you ahead of a lot of guys.

If you are around 40, it’s a pretty good age for looking for a partner. A lot of movement in the market, for lack of a better term.

If you want to hook up, get out there and talk to people. If you literally just want sex and not relationship, I can guarantee you that somewhere someone will be thrilled to break you in, no question. Anything you can imagine, someone gets off on it.

If you want a whole different life and sex is just part of what you are dissatisfied with, that is up to you to change - the point of power is always in the now. It doesn’t matter who you were, and while there are outside forces, you can do a lot to change your own life.

Ha! Well, certainly don’t try it with your dog.

I wish you luck, but if you haven’t tried sex by now maybe it isn’t your thing? Have you no girl-or- boyfriend to try it with? If you start old, you may have to go through the awkward part still but I think it will pass more quickly because you are, presumably, more mature and less hung up.

Dude. You are still a kid. Not missing out on anything yet.

And yes sex is awesome if it’s good, but takes some practice usually before it is good. It’s free and fun and good for relationships. Better when older and not so self conscious.

You can certainly afford to wait for years, literally no reason to rush, all you are missing out on is the awkward bad part.

Make a vinaigrette then crumble in blue cheese and shake it together. That might be my favorite, or at least the best one I’m usually willing to make.

I guess we could use a little ice age right around now, and it would also be nice to have a Renaissance around the corner.

Someone said inns and taverns, and yes it’s a missing piece of housing here - long term hotels with food, bars/restaurants with rooms to rent above.

Not much though, it is not a time I’d visit.

Orville Peck - C’mon Baby Cry

Every time this plays at my house everyone is belting it out. Nobody can hit the high notes.

I grew up without AC in Florida.

Sit in the shade with a fan, be still. If in the shade and a breeze, and not moving around, a pretty high temperature is comfortable.

Go to places with cold AC or to cold springs to get cold, it will last awhile after you leave.

If it gets cool at night, open your window at night to let in the cold air, close it in the morning to keep that air in for the morning. But once it heats up inside, you are better off with ventilation - open windows on both sides of the house and run fans, to move air throughout the house.

If it’s dry where you are (it doesn’t work here) get wet and let evaporation cool you. Even here you can get wet and stand naked in front of a fan you will get cold.

STAY HYDRATED.

I don’t think this has been mentioned, but it is also used to hide age discrimination. HR can’t say you are too old, so they say overqualified.

Orange soda.

With my third baby, she did not want to come out (in stark contrast to her sisters, who all seemed to want to give me about one hour of advance notice before getting born) and the midwife said, before trying induction, try castor oil, sometimes it will kick the labor on. Not a spoonful, no. A whole bunch. And don’t puke it out. I chased it with orange soda because I liked it but figured I could certainly manage without it.

Oh God. I couldn’t even look at orange soda without nausea for several years. And it didn’t even work, I still had to get induced!

Well, a cocktail of course!

I do like sweets sometimes. Ricotta cake with raspberries is the house favorite; tiramisu is amazing, cheesecake is great, ice cream, or a fruit salad. Those are all so good.

What a good question! No, most of the time I feel I am stuck here with everyone else, in this timeline. Sometimes what I perceive diverges from those around me, other times it converges. But I think of those as different filters overlaying the same reality; although I don’t believe this is the only reality in existence, it does feel like a ride we cannot get off.