They forged an FBI document using a real agent’s name in order to SWAT his house (the actual agent whose name they used has publicly stated that she had nothing to do with this case and never wrote that document), gave ERW’s ex the agent’s name with a fake number as the only contact to discuss custody of their son after illegally absconding to Tennessee with him under the pretense of being threatened by MM, filled said toddler child’s head with so much fear of MM that he began drawing pictures of “the evil man” who is the reason he’s not allowed to see his father anymore, gave several women a checklist of abuses to create a cohesive story and told them that a) just because they don’t remember it happening doesn’t mean it didn’t and b) they’re hurting the other women’s chance for justice if they don’t agree that it happened to them, just for a few examples. I think I’m using those words perfectly appropriately.
Claiming that someone is lying about SA without listing evidence could in and of itself be triggering, discussing SA at all could be triggering, one would assume that entering a thread about SA could be triggering. I’m not sure I agree that referring to these two as psychologically unhinged would be more triggering than any of the other content of this thread, or more specifically any of the rest of the content of my post accusing them of making it up. Incidentally, I’m using the term psychopath literally, not colloquially;
Individuals with psychopathy (Antisocial Personality Disorder) display a decrease of emotional response and lack of empathy with others.
This individual might possess a superficial charm but deep down is manipulative and impulsive.
A psychopath is characterized by a lack of regard for the rights and feelings of others, controlled and manipulative behavior, the absence of shame, and an inability to form emotional relationships (Morin, 2021).
They are incapable of loyalty to individuals, groups or social values. They are grossly selfish, callous, irresponsible, impulsive and unable to feel guilt or to learn from experience
I just don’t agree with your sentiment. I understand the points you’re making are accurate reflections of history (modern and otherwise) but I don’t agree that it’s necessary to avoid labelling people when critiquing their behavior, regarding women or otherwise. Also “unable to learn from experience” is not analogous to “treatment is impossible”, which I assume is where you got the assumption that I was saying that from.
Edit: I see that the person originally responding to me in this discussion is a mod, so if they’d like to clarify that they explicitly want me not to use the words I have in the way I have here then that’s fine, but that’s not what happened here as yet, so yea. These are my feelings on the subject. I understand yours, but I don’t agree. I think what you’re suggesting casts a far wider net over the issue than is necessary. I think she’s a genuinely dangerous person with clear patterns of harmful pathological behavior and I don’t think it’s wrong or detrimental to all women to discuss it. I’m transmasc nonbinary, autistic comorbid with ADHD and chronic treatment resistant depression, and a whole host of other stigmatized and marginalized things as well, and I don’t think it necessarily harms the entire conversation of mental illness as a whole to point out that people can do bad things in conjunction with or because of their mental illnesses, I think it’s disingenuous to act like that’s not an aspect of mental illness at all just because people can ignorantly group all neurodivergence together. I feel like your perspective is more about circling the wagons to control the attack, which I understand, but I think it limits potential discussion without providing any actual meaningful benefit to the communities involved.
We can have discussion without resorting to armchair labels and namecalling towards people we think we know because they’re celebrities. You have no idea whether or not she’s a dangerous person. You only think you do. What is objectively dangerous is trying to convince others that she’s an insane psychopath because that’s your personal opinion. I’m disappointed that a fellow SA survivor wouldn’t realize this, and I hope you genuinely reflect on your opinion.
🙄 it’s gross that you hold your view in such high objective regard that you think it’s your place to admonish me for not agreeing with you
Also I do know she’s dangerous, not least of all because she’s (as recorded in public court documents regarding custody of her child) actively discussing the details of an alleged series of assaults with her young child to the point where he’s terrified of entering LA to see his own father and spends time drawing scary pictures of him.
so if they’d like to clarify that they explicitly want me not to use the words I have in the way I have here then that’s fine
Yes that was the point of my comment being mod flagged. You’ve added additional context which helps but this probably isn’t the right venue for a conversation on the specifics of someone’s legal case and state of mind.
Oh I just assumed every post you make has that cuz you’re a mod, and I didn’t notice till later; when I did notice, I didn’t take your phrasing re: “probably” as a demand but a suggestion. Either way, point taken, thanks for letting me have a discussion anyways.
Yea sadly the UI isn’t great and there’s a bunch of different apps and everything is new. There’s badges for mod and admin, and then there’s a way to speak as a mod. So if you see all 3, that’s an admin speaking “officially”.
In general if someone’s asking for you to change your behavior- mod, admin, or even a regular user, you should probably take their suggestion if it’s reasonable to do so and not asked from a place of intolerance. It helps to demonstrate to the other person that you’re responding in good faith because you’re willing to accommodate their needs.
They forged an FBI document using a real agent’s name in order to SWAT his house (the actual agent whose name they used has publicly stated that she had nothing to do with this case and never wrote that document), gave ERW’s ex the agent’s name with a fake number as the only contact to discuss custody of their son after illegally absconding to Tennessee with him under the pretense of being threatened by MM, filled said toddler child’s head with so much fear of MM that he began drawing pictures of “the evil man” who is the reason he’s not allowed to see his father anymore, gave several women a checklist of abuses to create a cohesive story and told them that a) just because they don’t remember it happening doesn’t mean it didn’t and b) they’re hurting the other women’s chance for justice if they don’t agree that it happened to them, just for a few examples. I think I’m using those words perfectly appropriately.
Claiming that someone is lying about SA without listing evidence could in and of itself be triggering, discussing SA at all could be triggering, one would assume that entering a thread about SA could be triggering. I’m not sure I agree that referring to these two as psychologically unhinged would be more triggering than any of the other content of this thread, or more specifically any of the rest of the content of my post accusing them of making it up. Incidentally, I’m using the term psychopath literally, not colloquially;
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I just don’t agree with your sentiment. I understand the points you’re making are accurate reflections of history (modern and otherwise) but I don’t agree that it’s necessary to avoid labelling people when critiquing their behavior, regarding women or otherwise. Also “unable to learn from experience” is not analogous to “treatment is impossible”, which I assume is where you got the assumption that I was saying that from.
Edit: I see that the person originally responding to me in this discussion is a mod, so if they’d like to clarify that they explicitly want me not to use the words I have in the way I have here then that’s fine, but that’s not what happened here as yet, so yea. These are my feelings on the subject. I understand yours, but I don’t agree. I think what you’re suggesting casts a far wider net over the issue than is necessary. I think she’s a genuinely dangerous person with clear patterns of harmful pathological behavior and I don’t think it’s wrong or detrimental to all women to discuss it. I’m transmasc nonbinary, autistic comorbid with ADHD and chronic treatment resistant depression, and a whole host of other stigmatized and marginalized things as well, and I don’t think it necessarily harms the entire conversation of mental illness as a whole to point out that people can do bad things in conjunction with or because of their mental illnesses, I think it’s disingenuous to act like that’s not an aspect of mental illness at all just because people can ignorantly group all neurodivergence together. I feel like your perspective is more about circling the wagons to control the attack, which I understand, but I think it limits potential discussion without providing any actual meaningful benefit to the communities involved.
We can have discussion without resorting to armchair labels and namecalling towards people we think we know because they’re celebrities. You have no idea whether or not she’s a dangerous person. You only think you do. What is objectively dangerous is trying to convince others that she’s an insane psychopath because that’s your personal opinion. I’m disappointed that a fellow SA survivor wouldn’t realize this, and I hope you genuinely reflect on your opinion.
🙄 it’s gross that you hold your view in such high objective regard that you think it’s your place to admonish me for not agreeing with you
Also I do know she’s dangerous, not least of all because she’s (as recorded in public court documents regarding custody of her child) actively discussing the details of an alleged series of assaults with her young child to the point where he’s terrified of entering LA to see his own father and spends time drawing scary pictures of him.
Yes that was the point of my comment being mod flagged. You’ve added additional context which helps but this probably isn’t the right venue for a conversation on the specifics of someone’s legal case and state of mind.
Oh I just assumed every post you make has that cuz you’re a mod, and I didn’t notice till later; when I did notice, I didn’t take your phrasing re: “probably” as a demand but a suggestion. Either way, point taken, thanks for letting me have a discussion anyways.
Yea sadly the UI isn’t great and there’s a bunch of different apps and everything is new. There’s badges for mod and admin, and then there’s a way to speak as a mod. So if you see all 3, that’s an admin speaking “officially”.
In general if someone’s asking for you to change your behavior- mod, admin, or even a regular user, you should probably take their suggestion if it’s reasonable to do so and not asked from a place of intolerance. It helps to demonstrate to the other person that you’re responding in good faith because you’re willing to accommodate their needs.