I just don’t agree with your sentiment. I understand the points you’re making are accurate reflections of history (modern and otherwise) but I don’t agree that it’s necessary to avoid labelling people when critiquing their behavior, regarding women or otherwise. Also “unable to learn from experience” is not analogous to “treatment is impossible”, which I assume is where you got the assumption that I was saying that from.
Edit: I see that the person originally responding to me in this discussion is a mod, so if they’d like to clarify that they explicitly want me not to use the words I have in the way I have here then that’s fine, but that’s not what happened here as yet, so yea. These are my feelings on the subject. I understand yours, but I don’t agree. I think what you’re suggesting casts a far wider net over the issue than is necessary. I think she’s a genuinely dangerous person with clear patterns of harmful pathological behavior and I don’t think it’s wrong or detrimental to all women to discuss it. I’m transmasc nonbinary, autistic comorbid with ADHD and chronic treatment resistant depression, and a whole host of other stigmatized and marginalized things as well, and I don’t think it necessarily harms the entire conversation of mental illness as a whole to point out that people can do bad things in conjunction with or because of their mental illnesses, I think it’s disingenuous to act like that’s not an aspect of mental illness at all just because people can ignorantly group all neurodivergence together. I feel like your perspective is more about circling the wagons to control the attack, which I understand, but I think it limits potential discussion without providing any actual meaningful benefit to the communities involved.
We can have discussion without resorting to armchair labels and namecalling towards people we think we know because they’re celebrities. You have no idea whether or not she’s a dangerous person. You only think you do. What is objectively dangerous is trying to convince others that she’s an insane psychopath because that’s your personal opinion. I’m disappointed that a fellow SA survivor wouldn’t realize this, and I hope you genuinely reflect on your opinion.
🙄 it’s gross that you hold your view in such high objective regard that you think it’s your place to admonish me for not agreeing with you
Also I do know she’s dangerous, not least of all because she’s (as recorded in public court documents regarding custody of her child) actively discussing the details of an alleged series of assaults with her young child to the point where he’s terrified of entering LA to see his own father and spends time drawing scary pictures of him.
so if they’d like to clarify that they explicitly want me not to use the words I have in the way I have here then that’s fine
Yes that was the point of my comment being mod flagged. You’ve added additional context which helps but this probably isn’t the right venue for a conversation on the specifics of someone’s legal case and state of mind.
Oh I just assumed every post you make has that cuz you’re a mod, and I didn’t notice till later; when I did notice, I didn’t take your phrasing re: “probably” as a demand but a suggestion. Either way, point taken, thanks for letting me have a discussion anyways.
Yea sadly the UI isn’t great and there’s a bunch of different apps and everything is new. There’s badges for mod and admin, and then there’s a way to speak as a mod. So if you see all 3, that’s an admin speaking “officially”.
In general if someone’s asking for you to change your behavior- mod, admin, or even a regular user, you should probably take their suggestion if it’s reasonable to do so and not asked from a place of intolerance. It helps to demonstrate to the other person that you’re responding in good faith because you’re willing to accommodate their needs.
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I just don’t agree with your sentiment. I understand the points you’re making are accurate reflections of history (modern and otherwise) but I don’t agree that it’s necessary to avoid labelling people when critiquing their behavior, regarding women or otherwise. Also “unable to learn from experience” is not analogous to “treatment is impossible”, which I assume is where you got the assumption that I was saying that from.
Edit: I see that the person originally responding to me in this discussion is a mod, so if they’d like to clarify that they explicitly want me not to use the words I have in the way I have here then that’s fine, but that’s not what happened here as yet, so yea. These are my feelings on the subject. I understand yours, but I don’t agree. I think what you’re suggesting casts a far wider net over the issue than is necessary. I think she’s a genuinely dangerous person with clear patterns of harmful pathological behavior and I don’t think it’s wrong or detrimental to all women to discuss it. I’m transmasc nonbinary, autistic comorbid with ADHD and chronic treatment resistant depression, and a whole host of other stigmatized and marginalized things as well, and I don’t think it necessarily harms the entire conversation of mental illness as a whole to point out that people can do bad things in conjunction with or because of their mental illnesses, I think it’s disingenuous to act like that’s not an aspect of mental illness at all just because people can ignorantly group all neurodivergence together. I feel like your perspective is more about circling the wagons to control the attack, which I understand, but I think it limits potential discussion without providing any actual meaningful benefit to the communities involved.
We can have discussion without resorting to armchair labels and namecalling towards people we think we know because they’re celebrities. You have no idea whether or not she’s a dangerous person. You only think you do. What is objectively dangerous is trying to convince others that she’s an insane psychopath because that’s your personal opinion. I’m disappointed that a fellow SA survivor wouldn’t realize this, and I hope you genuinely reflect on your opinion.
🙄 it’s gross that you hold your view in such high objective regard that you think it’s your place to admonish me for not agreeing with you
Also I do know she’s dangerous, not least of all because she’s (as recorded in public court documents regarding custody of her child) actively discussing the details of an alleged series of assaults with her young child to the point where he’s terrified of entering LA to see his own father and spends time drawing scary pictures of him.
Yes that was the point of my comment being mod flagged. You’ve added additional context which helps but this probably isn’t the right venue for a conversation on the specifics of someone’s legal case and state of mind.
Oh I just assumed every post you make has that cuz you’re a mod, and I didn’t notice till later; when I did notice, I didn’t take your phrasing re: “probably” as a demand but a suggestion. Either way, point taken, thanks for letting me have a discussion anyways.
Yea sadly the UI isn’t great and there’s a bunch of different apps and everything is new. There’s badges for mod and admin, and then there’s a way to speak as a mod. So if you see all 3, that’s an admin speaking “officially”.
In general if someone’s asking for you to change your behavior- mod, admin, or even a regular user, you should probably take their suggestion if it’s reasonable to do so and not asked from a place of intolerance. It helps to demonstrate to the other person that you’re responding in good faith because you’re willing to accommodate their needs.