can’t speak much now, site is in five-alarm fire mode for obvious reasons. things are going good though, thank you for using the site, hopefully this week will chill a bit

  • Cowbob45@beehaw.orgEnglish
    5·
    2 years ago

    I just flunked out of what I thought was going to be my career (physics) I’m not sure if this is the correct term but I failed at my bachelor’s? I’m thinking of doing an engineering degree instead.

    • Schedar@beehaw.orgEnglish
      3·
      2 years ago

      In future you may look back and see this as an important turning point in your life that you’d never want to change.

      I switched out from my original degree and went into an entirely different field and if it wasn’t for that I wouldn’t have anything like the life I’ve got now.

    • t0fr@lemmy.caEnglish
      3·
      2 years ago

      You failed at doing what you weren’t meant to do. You succeeded in moving in the right direction. You got this

      • Cowbob45@beehaw.orgEnglish
        2·
        2 years ago

        Thanks my friend, not gonna lie I actually cried, I thought I had it I studied hard for the final exam but it still wasn’t enough. Whatever it is I enter next I’ll make sure to change my studying habits.

    • dustedhands@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      2 years ago

      I was on the same boat, man. I was doing really well in HS, always thought I was going to be a scientist, etc… college years hit me hard, not only in the materials difficulty and studying habits, but also had a nasty incident which gave me PTSD on top of that.

      Long story short, I also dropped out of Physics after years of trying and pretending I could. I couldn’t. I also cried. First to myself and then others.

      After that… it took many years but I eventually got back to college for that degree in Comp Sci. I am already working as a programmer, so it helps me focus in my path to follow.

      If you’re following up with an engineering degree, that’s actually a solid choice. A lot of scientists are engineers too, both are STEM so there’s a lot of compatible subjects if you’re still eyeing on the physics path. You could get a bachelor’s in engineering and then a masters in physics or astronomy, for example, or simply follow where your heart or money is.

      Don’t pressure yourself too much on dropping out. Yes, it’s a failure and it will serve well to retrace the steps and identify what made us fail, but it’s never the person themselves. You made a mistake, but you are not the mistake or the failure. That means you can and will be better.

      Sorry for the long rant. Hope you get better man.

      • Cowbob45@beehaw.orgEnglish
        1·
        2 years ago

        Thanks for the kind words stranger, your story rings so many bells to me too, I basically cried internally once I knew it was all over and then to my family, I am thankful that I have a lot of support at home so I was able to process it in peace.

        I have been placing a lot of pressure on myself for this but it’s in the past all I can do is learn from it and do better which is what I am planning to do.

        I hope you find a lot of success in your life my friend! Thank you for your words.