I switched my main account over to @[email protected]. You will be better able to reach me there.

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Cake day: June 4th, 2023

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  • My bad, took the wrong English word. It should be verbose not verbal. I found the approach attractive, to address the issue of people camouflaging hostility as rational discussion, when they are actually following antagonistic believe systems. As from the first “philosophy” post linked from their sidebar:
    What is Beehaw?
    Beehaw is a Community
    A few thoughts on Beehaw’s design
    At the time of this writing, though, i have already changed to a different server, because i got it that the place is going to attract a US-of-A style ryrannic PC mob which will exert its own hostility, in their need for a safe space, believing a demand for “niceness” masking – whatever that means will not be up to discussion – will do. An echochamber that i will not be part of. The most fun moments on Reddit are often not so very “nice” but rather dirty and snarky. :-)





  • May i ask what your reasons for not signing up at beehaw were? I’m still making up my mind. The main reason i went for it (besides one of the owners being very verbal about their philosophy), was that it has some size, which gave me trust that it would not suddenly disappear together with all their user accounts and content. Account migration sadly is missing which is a curious omittance. PM welcome if you so wish.


  • I’m reading that you seem to be confused by the naming of some server instances in the network which is indeed called “Lemmy”. One of the servers is called “lemmy.ml” (that’s where the main developers are at home and it’s currently the one with the most users but that might change). Another one is “beehaw.org”. Both and a whole number of others are part of a so-called “federated” network, they share their “communities” with each other. So, although you are registered on beehaw.org, you can as well post to a community at lemmy.ml etc.





  • What is your definition of being “nice”, actually? This question is hard to answer, i know. What i mean is, demanding from someone who is upset and therefore gets emotional, to switch to “non-violent speech”, is a form of tyranny. My stance on voices that get emotional because of dissatisfaction is that they are in need to get heared more than those who are satisfied anyway. Conflicts are actually a valuable part in my work, as they are so revealing about people, and they provide a lot of energy that can get transformed for the better. People might be in a state where it’s just impossible for them to be “nice”, and demanding it from them would result in them getting yet more aggressive. In that sense, a demand for being “nice” is a demand for masking dissatisfaction, thus becoming a hindrance to resolution.

    I can very well be nice and slap someone in the face with a sarcastic irony, without people even realising it. Just don’t want my account to be trapped in a space that tends to consequently give PC tyrants an upper hand. I’m not from USA btw so those typical masking standards are not so much part of my culture. I’m all for being civilised and i think that i am :-) but i’m also understanding of people getting angry because i might understand some of the psychology behind it – and some people might be nice and all but they are still fundamentally being idiots.