Ah, I see. Yeah, I thought I was misreading it, thanks for the clarification.

I have felt a similar thing with friends drifting apart, although in my case I think it has more to do with age and being busy than corona.

> but I often wish for more connection with other people

The fact that that’s not ok in your relationship sounds pretty bizarre to me. I am in a monogamous relationship, and I have both male and female friends. My gf also has both male and female friends. When she wants to go have some personal time with her friends, I’m supportive of that.

I’m likely reading too much into this, so I’ll apologize in advance, but not being ok with your significant other spending quality time with people they care about seems jealous and insecure to me.

EDIT: My reading comprehension is apparently trash tier.

1 guy made a community. He put some shitty posts there that were massively downvoted. He was banned and his community deleted. It’s hardly “The_Donald” joining.

That’s actually not how it works. Images are hosted by the instance the community is on. Other instances embed those images as links in the page. The image is downloaded from the original instance by the browser.

Yeah, I noticed afterwards xD

That’s an open issue on Github. The devs are currently in the middle of trying to optimize performance so the whole network doesn’t go down on the 12th. If you know any webdevs willing to have at it, great!

You should be able to federate with all available communities by default.

The trick is that your instance will not pull in all communities by default. Once 1 person subscribes to a community (a bit tricky for the first time, see here), all users on your instance will start seeing that community in their “All” feeds.

Can definitely be done. Just need someone to do it. I need to read more of the documentation and figure out how all this works before contributing, I don’t want to waste the dev’s time coaching a newbie. That’s the last thing they need right now.

Yes, it’s a known issue. The devs are absolutely slammed with optimization issues, and this will probably get addressed at some point.

True, but I agree with lemillionsock’s core point. Nothing short of Reddit pulling the plug on the servers will cause 430 million monthly active users to shift in any short time-frame. However, what is likely to happen is a sharp decline in quality as the core content contributors move on, then a slow gradual decline as the remaining users go “Where’d all the content go?”.

Right now, there is no import/export. It’s a known useful feature, but the devs have no time to work on it (I’ve been following all the optimization work they’ve been doing on github, I don’t know if they sleep). You’ll have to start over atm, sorry.

Yup, but this is early days yet. As issues get filed on the github and more contributors step in to accomplish stuff, things will improve.

Communities are only pulled onto your instance the first time somebody subscribes to it. If nobody on lemmy.ca has subscribed yet, do this

Go to Communities at the top, change the filter from “Local” to “All” and search for “Gaming”.

If you’re the first one who wants to register to a community from this server (not the case here) it’s slightly more complex.

1. Technically yes, but it’s not even vaguely in the same ballpark. If I’ve understood the devs talking about the optimization issues (I could be wrong! Just my limited understanding) the big performance hit is in the local feed. That means being on another instance takes a gigantic amount of the load off, even if you’re still accessing the same community.

2. If lemmy.ml is down, so are all the communities hosted there. All communities not on lemmy.ml would still be up.

All the UI is doing is automatically making it a markdown link. You can do it yourself just by doing [[email protected]](https://sopuli.xyz/c/test_community)

They’ve written this handy guide

Mostly correct. The only slight correction is that they can delete posts and block users from their own communities. So hypothetically, if [email protected] posts starts being super rude on a community in servertwo.lm, then the admins of servertwo.lm can delete posts in their instance and/or block the user from participating there. That does not stop [email protected] from participating in their own instance or any other.

The defederation thing is very much a last resort. If EVERYONE in serverone.lm is causing problems, and the admins of serverone.lm refuse to do anything, then the admins of servertwo.lm might decide it’s not worth the hassle to ban individuals and ban the whole instance.

More power to ya. I like the ruleset here, but that’s the glorious thing about Lemmy: don’t like the rules of your instance? Go to one that works better for you.

That would go against the concept in a pretty big way. The entire idea of federation is that each instance owner has control over their own instance, and people should (once they get a handle on how things work) move to an instance where they like the rules and admins.

If users of an instance start brigading around the fediverse and being assholes, and the admins of that instance refuse to take action, other instances can choose to block that instance as a whole (defederation) as a last resort. A user getting dropped into an instance like that, full of assholes and isolated from the rest of the network, would be way worse than just some initial confusion.

Also, should mention that the devs have been very vocal that they want to design the system in such a way that they can’t control it, but each admin & user has full autonomy rather than centralised control.