I think it’s ethical to shame them for prioritizing their own desires over the life of their child.

I don’t think it’s ethical for laws to decide who can have children, but I also think letting anyone have children is not sustainable for our species. So ideally a solution to overpopulation is an educated population that makes their own individual responsible decisions.

If i were given total control I would probably force aspiring parents to adopt until there are no unwanted children left. Then we can think about making more