I had a rather difficult breakup with my 4-year ex GF. We should have split after the first year, but I kept on trying to fix the relationship.

After a bit of a meltdown, I decided to break up with her, but she didn’t take it well; she said that she did not acknowledge us breaking up. It was a sad and long breakup that day and, honestly, I was not helping her go through it.

After a few days, I woke up at night after feeling something smashing my head. I rushed to turn the lights on and noticed they were already on. She did go to my apartment at 3 am (the door was never locked) and went to my room to throw a shoe at my head and then gave a 2-hour monologue of why we shouldn’t break up, while drunk.

I was shocked and couldn’t say a word during the whole monologue, and she was frustrated about that, but I just couldn’t say anything. She left at 5 am, and I then cried until I fell asleep.

The next day she called to apologise, all I could say was that it was ok. She did try to text for a few months, but I never replied.