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    Save your sister, she is not okay. You are not an inferior person, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are not responsible for everything. Your boundaries matter. Your feelings matter. You will be okay.

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    You fight much bigger problems that others around you. Your way of thinking is definitely not normal, seek diagnosis and help. Life is not supposed to be this complicated mentally.

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    “You’re trans lul, and don’t worry about coming out your mom is nice and dad doesn’t give a fuck” Honestly would probably make my childhood harder but would make my mid/late teens onward a lot less confusing and painful.

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    Hit the gym and stay consistent about it. Not only will you feel better about yourself you’ll also be able to manage the physical pain you will have a lot better.

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            A lot of people will have negative things to say about this, but good for you. Alcohol is not necessary for a full, happy life. For people that enjoy it in moderation, awesome. But there’s nothing wrong with not liking it or not even being interested in trying it in the first place.

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              Kinda in the same position, I don’t drink, never have (though I’ve had it in my mouth), and don’t really ever plan to. Not really interested ngl, and I’ve seen it go wrong enough to know how bad it can get.

              That being said, I have no issues with anyone who does, in moderation at least. If they’re having fun, then that’s great for them!

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    Whatever comes of it—whether you get hurt, or whether you get suspended—you just need to lay your bullies out.

    They won’t ignore you. They won’t go away, no matter how hard you work to be unnoticeable. It’s trying to do that—to be invisible so that they’ll leave you alone—that will change the course of your life for the worse. You won’t be a high achiever, you won’t go to a good school, you’ll just coast, forever suffering the damage they did, and regretting that you didn’t do anything about it.

    The only thing they’ll understand is the kind of violence that says you’re not worth fucking with. Don’t worry what Mom will think. Don’t worry about the pain of a punch or two. Don’t worry about your “permanent record”. All that will be temporary in the grand scheme of things.

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      I am sorry to hear that. It is not your fault. It is the fault of the bullies who did it and it is the fault of the adults that did not protect you. You were just a child. You cannot be expected to solve something so difficult as bullying all by yourself. Many adults cannot even do that. Apparently, the adults in your environment could not solve it, so how could you be expected to do it?

      Regretting it does not help. Regretting it just prolongs the pain. It just keeps the idea alive that it is somehow your own fault and that you had control. You did not have control. However, you do have control now.

      If you still feel invisible, do something about it. You do not need to still keep suffering the damage. That is something you actually can do something about now.

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    You’re experiencing abuse and it’s not normal. You also don’t have to put up with your family because they’re your family.

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        My personal theory is that neurodivergents unconsciously group / couple with each other. Happened with me and my partner. Genes that couple are more likely to co-exist. Either that or there’s some shared evolutionary origin of the genes that make up both conditions.

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      Ah yeah, just withdraw all the liquidity that is most certainly there…

      You have just demonstrated more faith in neolib pretendy dollaridos than I have or will never have.