Following the spirit of spreading across the Fediverse (and because my main instance is down so many times, because diverse reasons) I’m intrigued about the joining instance process, because I honestly don’t know what criteria to have in order to join another one if I ever want to do it.

That made me curious of how you decided to join?

I firstly join to lemmy.fmhy.ml thanks to Spez and a Reddit post from FMHY subreddit, then the tragedy occurred, then I joined to lemmy.world which is/was my main one because I pictured it like a good home, then lemmy.fmhy.net revived and I am with them too, but seems like they are in a bit of trouble with the server, finally now I am in lemm.ee, but only because I just wanted another backup, not because I searched for it especially (also it was mentioned in a comment about smaller instances and one user from here throw a joke to not join here because it sucks so that way the server would be more stable, so yeah, I joined).

To be clear I am not in search for yet another instance (that sounds like a good instance name to be fair), I just want to know how the deciding process is for you, is it just random? Is it because of personal tastes?

I couldn’t care less about NSFW stuff, I don’t search for it specifically, but my day won’t be ruined if I see a tit.

I like gaming, tech, Linux, SBC gaming, emulation, macOS, Android stuff etc (yeah how original) should I look for an instance dedicated to that if I ever want to join yet another one? Because I see topics like this in almost any instance.

I read you lemmings!

EDIT: BTW the migration process has been easier for me thanks to LASIM, so I wouldn’t be scared if I ever want/have to migrate again.

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    I googled about lemmy, found a blog post to introduce the whole concept, they linked an instance recommendation thing based on (if I understood correctly) the uptime, (de)federation and user count of the instance, and I just clicked one of the suggestions. So many posts claimed that it doesn’t make a great difference that I eventually decided to toss my overoptimisation habit and take what was suggested to me.

    But I’m still learning my way around here, who knows if this will stay my forever home.

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    admin is nice. felt cozy when i first loaded it up
    btw I’ve got a (free) domain: beeg.pp.ua and an old craptop, so I’m thinking about self-hosting my instance

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    I joined here because EMPRESS reccommended here at the time. After her getting banned from this instance, I’ve been looking for an instance to switch but didn’t find one that’s open for all sorts of users and isn’t heavily defederated, so I stuck with here.

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    I’m running my own instance, which made it easy to choose which instance to use 😁

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      Youre better off. Lemmygrad is like 90% Russian propagandists. Dudes think editing a commercial to whiten skin tone is the same as genociding children.

      Reminds me of late stage 4chan and r/the_donald

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        As a Hexbear user, I personally get paychecks from both Vladimir Putin and Xi Jinping for every comment. It’s a pretty sweet gig ngl.

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          Have you tried reading the thread? We were talking about lemmygrad.

          But I’ve been seeing yall dipshits on hexbear brigaiding and doxxing people for the tamest shit so I wouldn’t be surprised to see yall far behind.

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            doxxing people

            Literally where? I’ve seen people talking about the dweebs running lemmy dot world doxxing some random user that they thought was @ Carcosa on hexbear, but I have not seen even a single allusion to hexbear doxxing anyone until now, including from the sea of people who hate it.

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        I fucking love comments like this from people who have no clue that hexbear is mostly ideologically alligned with lemmygrad and then get dunked on for it. Here’s a quote for you from a super scary man named Mao that you should learn to take to heart so you don’t get dunked on like this (emphasis mine):

        I. NO INVESTIGATION, NO RIGHT TO SPEAK

        Unless you have investigated a problem, you will be deprived of the right to speak on it. Isn’t that too harsh? Not in the least. When you have not probed into a problem, into the present facts and its past history, and know nothing of its essentials, whatever you say about it will undoubtedly be nonsense. Talking nonsense solves no problems, as everyone knows, so why is it unjust to deprive you of the right to speak? Quite a few comrades always keep their eyes shut and talk nonsense, and for a Communist that is disgraceful. How can a Communist keep his eyes shut and talk nonsense?

        It won’t do!

        It won’t do!

        You must investigate!

        You must not talk nonsense!

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          So? I call out hexbear for being shitty in its own way too.

          Just because one site is clearly a Russian psy-op doesn’t mean the people who fell for the psy-op are in the same group.

          Its funny you think there is some nuance im missing, but as is typical for the group in here triggered by my callout, you can’t actually state the problem.

          You have to shit on some theoretical point that nobody made.

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            His point is that Hexbear and Lemmygrad have the same stance on Ukraine:

            NATO caused it by arming the nazis during the civil war and making US aid contingent on including the far right in gov’t (instead of contingent on purging the nazis from the gov’t and army), and then by continuing to arm them while they violated Minsk II and did literal pogroms. Western Ukrainian nazis were shelling eastern Ukraine right until the day of the invasion.

            Every weapon we send to Ukraine is a bad day for someone, mostly civilians. Anything except ending western participation in the war as quickly as possible is sacrificing more blood of the workers for the profits of the bourgeoisie.

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              So let’s just take all of this as a given.

              How does this justify the genocide Russia is enacting on the people of Ukraine?

              And again, I said this before in 2 separate comments but I’ll say it here as well.

              It’s one thing to be an individual who has read and internalized Russian psyop content, it is entirely different to be a bad faith propoganda agent organized by the state.

              The people I’ve engaged from hexbear are typically dipshit shitposters at worse, lemmygrad is clearly different.

              If you spent any time checking out the messaging on 4chan and r/the_donald or any of the other Russian psyop sites, you pick up on some habits.

              The most obvious example in the current conversation is lemmygrad hosting a sub called Ukraine war news that has 0 news on active events in Ukraine. Every post is meant to shape your thoughts using bad faith information presentation.

              You wrote out your legitimate thoughts and included all details you find viable to discuss. These users know they are participating in bad faith and do so intentionally.

              Its why some people get a respectfully written response from me while others are called coping dipshits.

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                How does this justify the genocide Russia is enacting on the people of Ukraine?

                The US is not preventing a genocide, it is facilitating one. The whole succession thing was triggered by the Ukrainian state banning the Russian language and Azov & co doing wide-spread organized violence against Russian minorities, backed by the state, in Eastern Ukraine.

                all that other shit you wrote

                get over yourself.

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                The most obvious example in the current conversation is lemmygrad hosting a sub called Ukraine war news that has 0 news on active events in Ukraine.

                The community became more general about NATO activities in general because we changed the display name to “Death to NATO” which you would know if you visited [email protected].

                With all due respect, some of your comments are giving off the vibe that you would have accused anyone who wanted to stop the Vietnam War as being Russian propagandists.

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            sure thing, you definitely made that comment knowing what hexbear was. If you thought hexbear was really that shitty, you wouldn’t have said it’s better to be on there than on lemmygrad??? They literally post more news about the conflict than lemmygrad does, absolutely baffling behavior to say that lemmygrad is the psyop and not hexbear (it’s delusional to say it’s a psyop either way)

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              You could just read the older comments where I discussed hexbear?

              Cope dumbass.

              It takes all of 10 minutes to open up lemmygrad, see disinformation campaigns such as titling a sub Ukraine war news then trying to fill it with news on NATO being the cause of the war.

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                I did, you posted in their games comm, made that dumbass response in this thread, started getting shit on, then you started shitting on hexbear, pretty clear timeline of events for me

                capitalist coping

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                  What? Lol you have a whole headcannon to lean on as a coping mechanism

                  I guess if you’re just going to make shit up there is no point in further engagement

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    I’ve been on Hexbear the entire time. It’s inclusive, yet has zero tolerance for reactionary attitudes.

    Also since federation we actually have been complaining the quality of posts we see have gone down. You all lack an energy that made r/cth and hexbear such a breath of fresh air.

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      From my perspective, most hexbear users seem to have a very noticeable but different energy entirely. Although I think that’s mostly down to (most) of you guys moving from reddit to HB and then curating your own space there with all kinds of bells and whistles, communication styles, communities etc.

      Aside from the (very high) usage of emotes, theres something about the posts that make it really noticeable

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        I think one thing that stands us out among other spaces on the internet is rejection of common referential humor, this space almost demands you develop your own thing, and enjoy our beautifully curated collection of emotes left-unity-4 Also our moderation is pretty top notch, and you get a sense it’s okay to fail here. It gives you a fearlessness. Like, we dont make small dick jokes here about people we dont like because we dont want to hurt anyone who does have a small dick in the community, also because it reinforces bs masculinity tropes. So this means we have to approach from new angles and this limitation fosters a creativity in us. And I think you can have this too, with enough time.

        We dont all like lazy humor or really cheap shots, and cherish bits and running jokes with each other. Have you seen our owl? It’s very dirty.

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    This was recommended when I made my account. There weren’t any regional communities for where I’m from, so Finland seems as good a choice as any.

    I’m not sure I made an informed decision, but if there are real downsides to my choice I haven’t noticed them yet. I seem to be able to see the things I want to. I have to use the block button liberally, but I can’t see that being instance related. It’s largely due to using All at times, and not having strong enough tagging/filtering tools to make that workable without blocking tons of communities that are fine, but not for me.

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        that’s totally valid! I spend 95% of my time on lemmygrad (and now hexbear) comms anyways, so it doesn’t really matter to me other than being annoying when I have to make sure I’m not wasting my time commenting something to a user of a defederated instance