• Apytele@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    None of this would even be a problem if bathrooms had stalls that went floor to ceiling, and so much of why that’s the case boils down to people thinking it’s important to police what people are doing in the bathroom. I’ve heard people say the bathrooms can’t be private for all kinds of things including this, drug use, sex, interpersonal violence, homeless people taking sink baths, and more.

    Like it’s actually my job to watch people shit and piss sometimes for various reasons, even when they don’t want me to, but I have to have a specific reason that applies to behavior that specific person has already done or explicitly threatened (usually suicidal behaviors, hidden weapons, or somebody just being too bull-headed to recognize that they need help walking to not smash their head into the porcelain throne) and I don’t even like doing it then because of how much of a massive pain in the ass it is for everyone involved and it’s just absolutely wild to me that there’s people out there doing it more or less for funsies and often specifically to children. There was a gym teacher at my highschool that made it their mission to stop the saggy pants fashion trend that would go around tugging on boys pants to see if they would just fall down. Thank god our admins were smart enough to realize they couldn’t just let a teacher wander around ripping kids clothes off in public (although I guess in private would be even worse) and quickly put a stop to that.

    Its even a disability thing, people will police people using the disability stalls not realizing that some people who can otherwise walk need the handrails to sit and raise from the toilet without falling, among other inobvious disabilities (I’ve got IBS, I’m taking whatever stall is free first and if it’s the handrail one so be it; I’m a human being who deserves the dignity of not shitting myself in a Walmart). This isn’t to invalidate the unique struggles of the trans experience (I’m starting to look masc enough that I’m getting weird looks in the bathroom myself), but like. LET HUMANS SHIT IN PEACE 2k24!

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      5 months ago

      Agree. Some people just need to mind their own business. Unless someone is getting hurt, then just mind your own business and don’t get involved.

      I remember a woman entering a men’s bathroom before because the queue was long. The only reason I was upset was because if a man did they same he may get in trouble.

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        5 months ago

        At least it rarely happens that way, most men can get through the urinals pretty quick, I have to stop and clean the seat and everything.