“b-but bears are actually dangerous!” Shut the hell up.

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    8 months ago

    Dismissing someone’s concerns as a mental health issue. That’s actually horrifyingly toxic and completely illogical in this case. This is what people mean when they talk about concern trolling.

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      8 months ago

      I did not dismiss it, I said mental health or environmental. I completely acknowledge that there could be something in their lives that is causing this problem. Did you actually read what I wrote?

      People need to talk to a therapist about their fear of airplanes, whether it’s rational or not. People have to talk to a therapist about car crashes, whether it’s rational or not. If you are worried about something and it causes you anxiety, you should talk to a therapist. The source is not my concern, the help you need is.

      And again, specifically said if there were something in their lives causing this problem I hope it is also resolved. That is acknowledging it could be a real world thing, an external factor, causing them problems. So please read what I wrote before you give me another unnecessary lecture

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        People need to talk to a therapist about their fear of airplanes, whether it’s rational or not. People have to talk to a therapist about car crashes, whether it’s rational or not. If you are worried about something and it causes you anxiety, you should talk to a therapist. The source is not my concern, the help you need is.

        That’s not what therapy is for. If there is a real life problem causing you anxiety or anger the solution is to fix that problem of to remove yourself from the situation. Talking to a therapist is not a solution to real life problems. Anxiety, fear, and anger all exist for a reason and they can all be productive emotions in the right context. The only time you should see a therapist for a rational concern is if said concern can’t practically be escaped or fixed.

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            8 months ago

            PTSD happens after a traumatic event. In order to start treatment you first need to be removed from the situation that caused the trauma. You don’t get treated for it if it’s an ongoing problem. You understand this, right?

            What have I ignored exactly?

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                8 months ago

                The external issue here isn’t a personal one though. It’s that women can be dangerous just like men are dangerous though typically in different ways. Not enough people acknowledge this.

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                    8 months ago

                    You said something that comes across as condescending and as concern trolling. That’s why you got downvoted to hell.

                    It took me that long to figure out that you were actually being sincere and that you apparently didn’t get the above statement that not all women are safe. Though your understanding of what therapy is useful for definitely needs some work. You don’t go to therapy for being scared of something that’s legitimately dangerous. You’re supposed to be scared.