Here recently it seems like everything just gets under my skin so quickly and easily. It’s not that I get mad and take it out on others, it’s just the fact that I’m constantly annoyed and stressed. Something as simple as the dogs tracking some mud through the house will just ruin my mood. I know some people who would just laugh it off and clean it up. Meanwhile I’ll get pissed that I didn’t wipe their feet and be mad the entire time I’m cleaning it up. This has nothing to do with the dogs, it just an example. Any number of seemingly insignificant things can trigger me like that. Like forgetting something at the store and having to go back. I would love to be able to go, “well that sucks” and just get over it.
The way you’ve phrased this sounds like this isn’t just your default state throughout your life. Is there maybe a much larger stressor that’s sapping your emotional energy and making your trigger shorter? If that’s the case, resolving your feelings around that stressor would probably be most effective.
You could also just be exhausted or burnt out, at which point the only way you can actually make things better is by getting a proper break. Obviously some people’s life circumstances don’t really allow for that, so any small changes of getting help where you can is recommended.