Default instance blocks should largely replace defederation
Since what content users might want to see is quite unlikely to match which servers the admins tolerate, choosing instance on the Fediverse can be quite complicated, which is inconvenient and off-putting for new users.
For this reason, and simply that the Fediverse is stronger united, I believe defederation should ideally be reserved for illegal content and extreme cases. If Fediverse platforms would allow instances to simply block the rest for users by default, the user experience would be the same, unless they decide otherwise.
Yeah that seems like it would solve your problems no /s Alotta instances are lenient on their users speech and only ask “no (actual) hate speech etc discrimination” and friendo, a different opinion isn’t either of those things and don’t fall under the rules to get in trouble by