Hi,

I’m at that point in life where I’m facing big changes/having to take decisions for the first time and I’m scared.

I’ll soon be starting an internship abroad with a good company and, silly to say, I’m getting cold feet. I’m scared of the move and about the future - at the possibility that I’ll like it and want to go there, and leave the people here behind.

I’m also scared that my partner wouldn’t want to come with me if that were the case. They say they aren’t sure yet. I understand, but it still makes me feel anxious for the future. I would hate to be in the situation where I would have to choose between a good job and losing my partner. It’s so silly writing this down.

I think I’m just rambling and could use someone older to give me some advice about the way their life went. I dont really have older role models around, I’m on my own with this one. I guess that’s part of the problem. I’m full of internal conflict, on so many topics at once - from practical life direction to things like philosophical/ideological matters.

Thanks for reading this. Hope life is kind to you.

  • nodsocket@lemmy.world
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    2 years ago

    Yeah, I know that feeling. It’s scary to go “off the rails” and have to make tough decisions without an external guide. Here is some advice that I was given that I found really helpful: just stay on your current trajectory until the situation becomes unbearable. If you leave too early, you’ll have regrets, so it’s better to wait until the right decision becomes obvious. For you I guess, that would mean staying in your current career path and just seeing how far you can go.

    As for worrying about finding yourself, I wouldn’t get too deep into it became there isn’t a clear answer for anyone. The important questions are: 1) what do you want right now? (friends, hobbies, SO) and 2) what are you pretty sure you’ll need in the future (money, education, etc)? The answer to both will also change as time goes by.