• OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    29
    arrow-down
    3
    ·
    1 year ago

    Virginity is fake and made up.

    Also sex is fun but not some revelatory experience(but what do I know, Im just a lesbian, a group which famously has many more orgasms than average), eo not base your self esteem on having it or not having it.

    It also isn’t a substitute for intimacy, which when I talk to people who are weird about not having sex, I see them conflate needing a hug or to express their feelings with having sex.

    Rant over.

    • Bongles@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      24
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      1 year ago

      To be fair, Someone that has “more orgasms than average” saying not to worry about it is like a rich guy saying money doesn’t buy happiness.

      • OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        10
        arrow-down
        4
        ·
        edit-2
        1 year ago

        No, it is like a rich guy saying “Money doesn’t make you more mature, spiritually enlightened or a better person”

    • eldain@feddit.nl
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      6
      ·
      1 year ago

      Thank you for your rant.

      To add: Your SO is not a replacement for a social network. Don’t hunt for the one, place people you click with at all distance levels as you get to know them. A healthy social network leads to healthy relationships.